Hi Reader,
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This time of year can be really hard for students.

Academic pressure builds. Transitions get complicated.
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Big questions start surfacing about majors, careers, living situations, and whether they're even on the right path. And sometimes, all of it hits at once.

As a parent, it can be hard to know what to do from a distance. You want to help, but you don't want to add to the pressure.
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So here's what I've learned from thousands of hours working with students: The most powerful thing you do right now is be a non-anxious presence.

A text that says "thinking of you" or "no need to respond, just wanted you to know I love you" can mean more to a struggling student than you might imagine.

You don't have to say the exact right words. You just have to be available and calm.

If they do end up talking with you, try to follow their lead. Ask open-ended questions as a curious observer. Listen more than you advise.

Example questions:

• What's that been like for you?
• What have you tried?
• What's been helpful?
• Any way I can help?
• Can you help me understand that more?

Resist the urge to jump into problem-solving mode. Yes, you can probably anticipate things into the future more than they can... but oftentimes, students just need to feel seen and heard, and then they feel better.

It's really about listening more than saying the right words.
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Try to continue the conversation and take it deeper; the goal is connection, not answers or fixing.

Also, of course, it's still important to keep an eye out for signs that stress has become something more serious: pulling away from people, not sleeping, losing interest in things they used to care about, or talking about wanting to give up.
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Those are signals to lean in closer and gently encourage them to get support.

Thanks for all you're doing to support your kid. You're doing more good than you know.

Thanks,
Dr. Parke
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P.S. - If your student enjoys co-working ("body doubling") to get their work done, here's a 3-hour body doubling session I did live on YouTube this past week: Part 1 and Part 2​

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